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Berlin

Berlin’s social decency

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I got lucky. I’m starting to make friends who live here. The Berliner kindness and generosity is helping me feel comfortable but also makes me quite sad. I’ll illustrate why with my hypothetical friend named Katherine:

Wednesday afternoon Katherine and I decide on Facebook Messenger we should get together. We decide to meet on Saturday night around 11pm. On Friday she or I sends a message to confirm we’re still on.

We exchange phone numbers and she might even call me on Saturday afternoon to talk about our day and why, if, or how it could be possible either of us might be late. Thirty minutes before arriving we text again and make sure we’ll both be on time.

We meet on time and have a fun evening together. Now here’s the part that gets me. Every time, without fail, every time, Katherine sends a follow up message saying something like ‘had fun! goodnight!’. 

All this messaging could sound like overkill or even formulaic but in the moment is an expression of care, respect, and kindness. Some version of this attention takes place with almost every plan I’ve made. It’s wonderful and necessary.

This makes me sad because it reminds me how low my expectations are for people after living in #flakysf.I’m sad that decent human behavior feels over the top, especially since I’m still a second or third connect people I’m meeting. At home we say to take care of yourself first: You do you, gurl. I’m just doin me. YOLO because we could be dead in 5 minutes from being idiots the 5 minutes before! This kind of attitude doesn’t leave much room to care for the people around you.

However, it’s not to say there are no decent people in SF or that every interaction in Berlin will be this good. Some have been less easy. I met an ex-SFer last night who said this kindness appeared for him after people knew him for six months and understood he wasn’t transient. I’ve had the same experience. I notice the body language and tone of conversation improves when people hear how long I’ll be in Berlin and that I’m working with German clients. 

With all this messaging, why isn’t everyone glued to their phones? I’m baffled.

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Design

Digital Konmari™: how to tidy up your computer

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You can apply Marie Kondo’s ideas from The Life Changing Magic of Tidying Up to your digital life. Since we can’t hold a computer interface to see if it sparks joy I’ll help you reduce visual clutter from your computer to make it a more peaceful and comfortable space to enjoy.

A year after practicing methods from her book I started my digital Konmari™ with a brand new Macbook. Even new computers come with clutter! I’m sharing my findings four months after my digital Konmari™. I had no serious relapses is a signal of success.Your computer is a very personal place so please take care and look inward when discarding.

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Berlin

Berlin’s two cities

Living in Berlin is living in two places.

I went to a fashion week party and met people from Venezuela, Korea, India, and probably places in Africa. Don’t worry, there were also tall white modelesque Europeans with long blonde ponytails too. While sipping my mini bottle of champagne from a straw with the sound of techno bleeping through the air I looked around at all the different faces and thought, we could be anywhere in the world right now.

But that’s only part of being in this city.

When you move to a new place you must maintain your self or you’ll get lost in being someone else. Your identity, personality, values and ideals. But somehow you as who you are also must also participate, contribute, and accept local way of living.

Half of Berliners are from elsewhere. Morgenpost mapped the census data from last summer to show the thousands of people here born from Buenos Aires, Hanoi, Tehran, New York, Beirut and so on, not even counting the new 1.5 million expected from  Syria, Afghanistan, and Iraq. So how does each newcomers negotiate maintaining their self and truly living as a Berliner?

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And I wonder what assumptions are people make about me? New friends, new clients, new boyfriends, people on the street, police officers, other expats, other immigrants. I have seen more subtle sexism and semi-unprofessional behavior in Berlin than I have anywhere in the world. But actually none it is has been from Germans. I’ll never know if someone is rude or kind to me because of my color, gender, accent, or even social class. Or maybe that’s how they treat everyone. And in these experiences, I am living in a very global community that has the cosmopolitan luxury of these concerns.

But then, there are times I am unmistakably in Germany. When I join longtime Berliners for a Saturday breakfast or a weeknight cocktail I really wish I spoke the language. Not to be included in the conversation, but to feel the subtleties of the discussion. When I make eye contact with a friendly faces on the train I want a smile in return.  I want to find it easy to be remarkably punctual. In small moments like these I really feel like I am in Germany.

Berlin is not fast like New York, bright like Tokyo, loud like San Francisco, nor smokey like New Delhi. Cities that have become themselves through great change.  This city, just like its people, is coming into its own and asking how to maintain its self and adapt to the change.

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Berlin

I’m in Berlin!

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I’m here. It’s beautiful! I’m ready to meet some friends. Getting here was rough:

I got food poisoning on Saturday flying from India to Berlin. I vomited in the lavatory bathroom, at my window seat, and almost at baggage claim. During this episode I stepped on my phone shattering the screen locking me out of my the means to the hotel.

German bureaucracy is also holding my shipment of winter clothes at customs. Upon arrival I had to go shopping because stores are closed Sunday. This of course only after vomiting again in my bathtub and realizing my broken phone also locked me out of my work email.

I went to the closest stores nearby and deliriously wandered into a high-end mall and dropped my glass of bottled water all over the floor interrupting a man playing piano in the plaza. The old white-haired people shot me annoyed glares. Bitte! Sorry! ahhh. I dry-heaved my way home, slept til the sun came and went again.

I drew paper maps of how to get to my new office, wiggled my way into my work email, and ate a tiny plate of bruschetta. Still no phone, but a solid meal after 48 hours was my weekend triumph.

Monday morning, drained of energy I fought with the ticket machine and found my train. Everything was hard until I rode over the river blanketed with mini icebergs, gently bobbing on the Spree. It was so pretty, I quietly smiled to my self and though “yes, I’m supposed to be here. and I am.”

Yesterday my client said, “That sucks. But this is what happens when people first who move to Europe. It’s classic.” So either he’s very kind or I’m doing it right. Hopefully both. But either way, I’m ready to have some fun!

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Super 200% South India Tips

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The lower tip of India is warm, tropical, and relaxed. It was my first time there with the mission to unwind and expand my experiences in India since I’ve only seen Rajasthan. I didn’t see it all, and really how could you? But here are my tip top tips.

Basics

  • You must show your flight confirmation before entering an airport in India. Ideally it’s printed out. I’ve seen it shown on a device, but security doesn’t seem to like that much.
  • You will have to show your passport at every hotel and hostel checkin. It’s India law.
  • The wifi and data networks are not strong, even if your hotel promises it. I recommend traveling with one of these Skyroam devices that gives you a hotspot almost everywhere in the world.
  • This post talks about Kerala, Cochin, and Goa

 

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Kumarakom, Kerala (coo-mar-ah-com)

You’ll hear about and see packages to do backwater boat trips everywhere. It’s more lovely than it sounds. I did a two hour ride with another friend and it was perfect. I’m told doing the overnight stay can be boring for a couple of friends. It would likely be a great time for a couple or large group of friends or family. Regardless, this is the one attraction not to miss. Our ship captain picked water lilies and made necklaces for us followed by a fresh coconut drink. If you make even a little conversation you may increase the richness of your ride. If you want to do a backwater trip, you can do it from Alleppey or even Cochin. But the best stuff is here.

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I stayed at the marvelous Aveda Kumarakom Resort. It has a 150 meter pool where you could swim laps (and I did). Most of the time you’ll feel like you’re the only person swimming and in peak season the water is warm until dinner time. You can also swim to the edge of the resort to the beach beds and watch the beautiful backwater boats float by for hours not realizing the time pass by. They’ll also help you organize any day trips. 

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The service here is 5-star. You’ll also enjoy the food, in fact they even made my favorite off-menu Indian breakfast. There’s live music or dance along with a sunset boat cruise every night at dinner as well. This resort is kid friendly, lots of space for them to run around without getting in your hair. The Ayurvedic massages are very oily, so, very Ayurvedic.

Many locals and travelers alike praise Varkala. I haven’t been but my Indian’s friend’s Indian dad who lives in Kerala says “Varkala is great because it’s mostly Europeans. The Indians haven’t trashed it yet.” Take the quote as you wish. My cousin stayed at the Taj (great 5-star Indian hotel chain) and loved it. You can also do a trip to Munnar to see the spice fields. We were going to go but the ride is 4 hours from Kumarakom, so we decided to stay at the resort and swim.

 

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And finally, Kerala was communist from 1964-2011. It seems like people were happy with it and it could easily make a return. From my broken hindi and taxi cab chat I figured out how much it leveled field for so many people, helped the literacy rate, and more recently their party has helped improve infrastructure like the roads etc.

Cochin (Kochi)

You really only need one, maybe two days here. There’s not much to do outside Fort Cochin. I know because we stayed at the over-priced Trident Hotel on our first night. Later during the trip we returned at stayed at the Dreamcatcher Homestay namely for the wildly cheap price. If you literally just need a bed, this place is good. The toilet and “shower” are smaller than a walk-in closet. But the host family is warm and welcoming and will help you. Make sure to give them a few compliments otherwise they’ll get a little snarky.

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Ok so the main hotspots is the Jewtown with a Synagogue and a few other attractions. Interestingly enough, you will still take off your shoes like it’s an Indian temple here and in churches and you’ll see the deities celebrated with marigold necklaces and frames like the Hindu gods. Sadly Jewtown it’s mostly tourists now but it’s still pretty interesting. There’s also an area called the “beach” which turns out is a fishy, trash-filled coastline. However not too far from there are lost of boutique hotels and good shopping. Mid-upscale shopping includes Cinnamon inside the Malabar House (boutique hotel), Designshop and also some great chains like classic Fabindia and funky Playclan (though the selections are better in Delhi or even at the airport).

But one thing that can’t be missed is the Tibetan Chef’s restaurant. The price is dirt cheap and the cheese momos (cheese? Yes cheese) are to die for. If you need a break from Indian food, this is the spot. We ate at the Menorah Restaurant outside the Koderhouse. It was a good meal but unfortunately was not Jewish food. They might have the only clarinetist in Cochin though! Nearby is a latenight spot. I’ve heard reviews that it’s as unsanitary as it looks, so unless you want the famous India poops, don’t eat here.

Ft. Cochin is also a sleepy town, so if you want to go out drinking, buy your own beer in advance. You can go to the winebar at the Malabar House but the crowd is as cold and the vibe is dead, even though it’s beautiful.

 

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Goa
I wish I had a lot of advice on Goa. I only spent a few days here and was mostly at the India Yoga Festival. The rest of the time I was swimming in the ocean or laying out in luxury bed at the L’amore Cottages at Ashwem Beach. Even in peak season we had a lot of privacy on these soft sands and warm water. I had some of my best restaurant food in India at this location and their drinks are on-point. It’s not a boozy bar, but the bungalows, service, and proximity to the ocean are unbeatable. It’s 1.5 hrs from the airport but totally worth it. If you walk 100 steps North you can eat at a shack called Ding Dong. If that’s doesn’t do it for you, what will?

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New Delhi

Many people fly in and out of newP.S. If you’re traveling in Delhi (North). Here are a few good tips:

  • Uber works pretty well and is crazy cheap by American standards. But you can’t call the driver from the app.
  • Double the whatever traffic time Google predicts.
  • Pollution Air Quality Indicators over 250 is unsafe. In Delhi it’s sometimes 500+. Bring a mask and eyedrops. Unfortunately you will get used it it after a few days. Read more about AQIs here.
  • The best shopping in India is in Delhi.

Have a great time and if you remember one thing and one thing only it’s this: pepto with breakfast every day.